Parenting Tweens: Why Empathy Matters

 The tween years are a time of big changes—emotionally, mentally, and physically. Your daughter is no longer a little kid but not quite a teenager either. This in-between stage can feel complex for both of you, as she navigates who she is and you adjust to parenting through this new chapter.

One Simple Way to Support Your Tween

Your tween is pouring energy into figuring herself out, and one of the best ways to support her is by reflecting on your own experience at her age.

Do you remember how you felt as a tween? Maybe you felt awkward, like I did—I was tall, gangly, and self-conscious. Or maybe you struggled to fit in, balance responsibilities, or find confidence in who you were.

Your tween’s world might look different—cell phones, social media, and today’s fast pace add new challenges—but the emotions? They’re timeless.

We all want the same things:

• To feel accepted.
• To be loved and understood.
• To feel connected to those we care about.
• To have the chance to be seen and heard.

Why Empathy is Key

When you reflect on your own tween years, you tap into empathy that helps you relate to your daughter. Whether she’s struggling with friendships, self-confidence, or simply feeling out of place, showing her that you get it can make all the difference.

Empathy doesn’t mean fixing everything for her—it means being patient, offering support, and reminding her she’s not alone as she grows.

The tween years are challenging, but they’re also a time of incredible growth—for her and for you. By meeting her with understanding and grace, you’re helping her build confidence and resilience.

Your Turn: Reflect Together!

What do you remember about being a tween? How is your daughter’s experience similar—or different? Start a conversation with your tween about how things have changed.

Parenting is a journey, and every moment of connection counts.